This week at the deliverance service, Legal Rights. What gives demons a legal right to torment your life, and how do we take those legal rights away? Come find out, tonight at 7pm at Ignited Church, or watch online at,www.ustream.tv/channel/Pulling-Down-Strongholds-ministry ...
Every other week, our YouTube Exorcism Channel features an interesting question that focuses on some truth about spiritual warfare. We receive so many hundreds of questions that it's impossible to answer all of them. Some are uniquely important. They need an immediate response. Such is the question posed by a man named Evans who lives in Nairobi, Kenya, East Africa. Evan asks, "Is it possible for a Christian who has demons to live a biblically consistent life until the demons become weak and possibly leave by themselves? Do the demons eventually find the environment uninhabitable?
No! Demons never leave of their own accord. No matter how close to the Lord an individual gets, or how uncomfortable an indwelling demon may be because of the host's faith, that evil spirit isn't going until he is told to go. If the host of an indwelling demon is to be completely free from evil intrusion, an exorcism is inevitable. One an evil spirit has invaded a human, it is the nature of that fallen angel to fight to occupy the territory that they claim. When confronted and made to manifest, demons say things such as, "This is my home"; "He/she wants me"; "I've been here too long to leave"; "I can't give up my assignment." Most fight tenaciously. Even weakened demons don't voluntarily leave. The nearest I have come to a demon being cooperative is when the invading spirit says, "I don't like it here anymore. He/she prays too much." But even then, they must be commanded to leave.
When Jesus confronted the spirits Legion, he told them, "Come out of him" (Matthew 5:8). These evil spirits knew who Jesus was and didn't want to suffer at His hands. In the previous verse 5:7, they begged not to be tormented. They knew that Christ was coming to the country of the Gadarenes, but they did not pre-emptively skedaddle. They knew they would suffer at the hands of Christ, the Son of God, but still stood their ground, to the point of begging not to go (Matthew 5:10). If demons didn't leave because Jesus was about to confront them, your demons aren't going because you fast and pray. Such spiritual preparation is important to get ready for your deliverance, but you're still going to need an exorcism. Soaking prayer won't do it. Healing therapy won't suffice. Demons only obey the command of Christ to leave. To have complete freedom exorcism can't be avoided. It's inevitable.
This might be news to you, but not everyone should have the same access to you. For many Christians, this is difficult to grasp. We have core values of honor, love for the poor, serving others, laying down our lives, and being “the hands and feet of Jesus.” It’s easy to think that it is spiritual to offer all people unlimited access to our lives. But everyone who tries to do this eventually discovers that it is not sustainable, healthy, or spiritual at all.
You are responsible to manage levels of intimacy, responsibility, influence, and trust with people in your life. Likewise, you are responsible to honor the different levels of access and influence others allow you to have in their lives. These levels are absolutely righteous, healthy, normal, and good. It is supposed to be like this! It has to be like this. When we expect that we should all have equal access to one another, we are setting ourselves up to violate and be violated.
So, what are the levels of intimacy we should have in our lives?
1. THE “GOD SPOT”
The innermost circle is your core. Some people like to call this the “God spot,” because He’s the only person who belongs at the core of your heart and spirit. Nobody else knows and loves you like Jesus, nobody else deserves your heart’s primary allegiance and worship, and nobody should hold the place of influence He holds in your life.
2. MOST INTIMATE
The next level of intimacy is for your most intimate human relationship, your deepest soul tie. Only one person is going to fit into that spot. If you are married, this should be your spouse. If you are unmarried, this person could be a friend, a parent, a sibling, or even a business partner. When you do get married, you’ll face the delicate transition as you move the person who has been on that level back a circle or two and let your spouse take his or her place. This might be uncomfortable, but it must be done to protect your relational connection and covenant with your spouse.
3. CLOSEST RELATIONSHIPS
Kids, grandkids, parents, siblings and best friends are examples of people included in the next level of intimacy. These are people you will regularly make time for in your day-to-day life. Their level of access to you requires that you prioritize them over other relationships in your life, but don’t give them more influence or importance than the person holding the most intimate place.
The further out the circles of intimacy go, the more people can fit in them. The next circle contains your close friends. Heading out further, you have good friends, then co-workers, and then acquaintances. Keep going and you find the people in the same geographic location and the human race.
Yes, you are called to love “all people,” but that doesn’t mean that all people have the same access to your core. You may be called to pray for someone in Hollywood, or a group of people that feel scary, like Isis. But being called to pray for them doesn’t mean you should allow them into your core circle. It’s your job to manage your life so that you can offer people in your inmost circles appropriate access to your core.
Sometimes people hurt or scare us. If that happens, we must move them out to a place of access they can handle. Often people who once held the “most intimate” place in our lives find themselves out in the Isis sphere. The size of the mess they have to clean up is beyond their willingness to fix. We keep our love on toward them, but it may be a very long time before we ever have them over for dinner.
Maybe you are divorced or widowed and you have decided to put your children on that most intimate level. If you remarry and say, “I just want you to know that my children will always be the most important thing to me,” then you are effectively putting your spouse in submission to your children. This will not work out very well. Again, only one person deserves that most intimate place in your life.
The level of intimacy a person has in my life determines how much of myself I will offer them when they pull on the relationship. When someone wants more of me than I have decided to offer them at their level of intimacy, this is where I need to set good boundaries, and honor the boundaries I have set. I cannot treat someone in my outer circle the way I would treat my wife or one of my children. The reason I have these boundaries is to protect the most intimate relationships in my life.
Levels of intimacy set boundaries to protect the heart connection with our most valuable relationships.
Today, ask yourself, “Have I done a good job protecting my core and innermost circles of relationships, or do I need to make adjustments to protect my connections?”