Excerpt from book:
Eph. 6:4 “Fathers provoke not your children to wrath, but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.”
Many times we’ve used this verse as an excuse not to correct our children. I’m convinced that this isn’t what the scripture is talking about at all. It’s talking about the abuse and violence that leaves a child angry and resentful for the rest of his or her life.
We have never encountered demonization that came from correction or discipline from a loving parent. We have encountered demonization that came from letting a child grow up with no discipline or too much discipline resulting in abuse..
Parents that think “they won’t love me if I don’t give them everything they want,” are not loving their children scripturally. Proverbs 13:24, 29:15 and 23:14.
The absolute worst thing that you can do if your child was abused or molested is to “stuff” it. Let them talk to you about it. Let them vent their anger and frustration. They’ve been betrayed by someone that they should have been able to trust. Let them get it out and let Jesus come and heal them so they don’t grow up bitter and angry like so many that we encounter.